In public he calls me by my given name....when we are with others in the lifestyle and he is referring to me ...it is always "my girl"..or..."my toy"....and at the dungeon he calls me by my alter ego ...LOL..."Shade"....and if we are playing at home....the list is to long...but what i hate most is in the middle of play...he will ask..."what are you"....what does one say...for all of these thoughts are flooding my head....trying to hold on to reality before i am pushed over the threshold of subspace...i feel like screaming...."i didn't know there was going to be a TEST"...LOL