as the sub, it is you who are in control. While the power exchange itself suggests the dominant must take charge, leading as in dancing, the kind of play you desire requires you to be in control. Instead of yearning him to take the dominant role, you take it and command him to top you. The ol' topping from the bottom. Tease him enough and he'll be whatever you want of him.

Many Dommes I have spoken with believe the sub is always in charge. Afterall, the sub is the center of attention. And there's the addage that only by following do we become good leaders.

Good luck!