Also: it was in fact time and the most hercluean effort possible that made the kind of things that i trust him with possible. i don't want my casual mention of really important and serious issues (blackmail and possible financial bondage and/or identity theft, lol) to make waves or rub people the wrong way. it's all vry srs business over here, with a lot of trust and depth of spirit and love, despite using silly internet abbreviations and saying things casually.

just like with the whole what is a slave thing... we all just need to do what's best for us in our lives, mine happen to be crazy and stupid choices (on the surface) but no one else's should be!