Clearly i am not a Dom......but in my view 'low self esteem' is a bit of a blanket term and any decisions regarding a submissive's suitability to be subbed or the ethics of subbing them should be based entirely on the individual. i wonder in fact if that is why so few Doms have replied, because to say they would/have Dominated someone with low self esteem would make them sound callous, but i really think it depends on the person and whether to Dominate and form a relationship with them would be abuse or not.

i think the key is probably to be found in something Nikka Jones said, in my experience any decent Dom (especially one with a sub who has self esteem issues) makes a point of encouraging the sub and getting them to appreciate who they are and their very important role in the relationship as opposed to in anyway encouraging notions that they are a sub because they are inferior to the Dom.

This is an interesting topic tho, lots of people suffer with low self-esteem and it is undoubtedly an important issue is D/s relationships.....i do however think that there is perhaps a happy medium to be sought somewhere, between not getting involved with a sub with low-self esteem and "going ahead hoping her self esteem improves somewhere along the way".

i am probably rambling now!

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