Originally posted by Jones, Nikka
What scares me is that no other doms, male or female, answered the thread.
Would they, or would they not do it?
How many of them have given serious thought to this question?
How many subs are now in unhealthy relationships?
Does this kind of situation constitutes abuse?
My wife suffers from low self-esteem at times, stemming from her mentally-abusive mother. Her first experience with sex was a violent gang rape (several years before I met her).

And I am willing to dominate her, including rape-fantasy, when she is in the mood.

The key here is "when she is in the mood". It's a very delicate situation; in a way, while I dominate during sex, I suppose you could say that she also "dominates" when it comes to when we get kinky and when we enjoy "normal" sex.

My wife has a "barrier" that must be pushed through in order for her to fully enjoy sex; pushing her over that hump requires clamps, ropes, and domination. The key is to know when to push, and when not to.

I do know this: Her self-esteem has improved over the last twenty years. She is a brilliant, beautiful, talented, and caring woman -- and I make sure to let her know that.