wow, this is all so helpful. i appreciate the concern and the advice given, although im nervouse i still want to give this a good go and do the very best i can, both for me and for my Sir. i would like to see that his wife feels just as rewarded by the experience. she has asked if she could take the lead but as i already have it i dont wish to give it up until she is confident enough to know that i can, and will take it back when i desire to. bring on the suggestions cuz already i feel more confident in handling this. Sir has said that hes noticed the confidence as well.
thanks for the help