And how long have you known this person- has he been your Master for long, have you known his wife long, how well do you know each other, how comfortable are you with each other?

If you've just recently met or just recently have started to get to know each other, you might just want to break the ice by having a regular girls' night out; get some coffee, go see a movie, have conversation and learn about who she is. You need to know who a person is as deeply as possible if you're going to dominate them properly.