Thanks both of you I have a hard time blaming Her but that's just a personality defect of mine that I always still blame myself. I understand the reasons why he isn't attracted to me one being that he is a furry and She is but in a very limited way, She just is realizing how serious he is about it though. There was also the misunderstanding that it was going to be just Her and I at times but the turned out to be the case.
Also before moving in I had spent my weekends there. I had never had sex though because she wanted to wait until I was fully collared. (this includes any bdsm) I think this is where it finally caved in. As it was Friday and we where supposed to do stuff on Saturday or Sunday. She said directly that it is only the sex that there is a problem. Other then that I'm perfect.