I'm slightly confused.. I remember you speaking about how you were moving to Australia to live with this person. Did this subject not come up at least once ahead of time? Either you didn't discuss what your limits were, or someone is breaking them. You stated that you have told him of how a poly relationship has hurt you in the past.. but unless you make it clear that multiple subs is a limit, he may just do whatever, as master "knows best" of course.