mine has told me He wants my submission completely like MistressMallory said in much the same ways, job, family, kids, my support group are mine to do with as i see fit. He wants me to be intellectually interesting, have a sense of humor the things that make a person interesting but respectful in my sense of humor ( sarcasm is my first language) there are certain types of playfulness hard to describe which i know He enjoys, but even then in small doses. if He tells me enough, then its enough. if i hesitate when He commands me, thats an issue. He says if i want to be sexually interesting to Him, keep looking for ways to keep it interesting rather than make Him feel like He has to control me. i am so far from perfect at this, i hesitate all the time...i make one too many remarks etc on accident mostly from 44 years living a different way. this is why He says He always has a reason to punish me if He feels like it.