@kumoriko 'budding submissive/Dominant'? For someone to be a submissive or Dominant it is a state of being that is inherently already within the person. You cannot 'learn' to be a submissive, you 'are' a submissive. You cannot learn to be a Dominant, you 'are'a Dominant! You may well have 'submissive' tendencies and it is for the Dom/Master to teach you what it is that pleases him and it His responsibility to nurture you into the good submissive that He requires. Am sorry to say that if the love of your life left you because you supposedly were not a good enough submissive for him, then he would not have been the right one for you! Take your time in finding a Dom, communication is the key in finding the person that will help you achieve your needs/desire and wants as well as getting their own fulfilled.