Quote Originally Posted by rosebud View Post
^ Ahhhh...Ok.

The couple is in a known monogamous relationship and cheating will be defined as,
any act of dishonesty or unfaithfulness in a sexual manner, either IRL or Online.
Yeah... but so am I... to the outside vanilla world. Privately we are open. We don't swing (or at least, not together,) nor do we play with any mutual friends or acquaintances.

We agreed on "don't ask - don't tell" and while if we were to "begin again" we might do it differently, on the other hand, you don't mess with 30+ years of success.

So if you were a vanilla friend and were to "discover" I or my wife were having an affair... and came and told the other of us, your news would be unwelcome.

Very unwelcome. It's not your business unless you are specifically asked. Then and only then do you have the right to divulge your knowledge and only if you are primarily the friend of one side of the couple and not the other. Even then, I'd be wary. If you value the friendship you, as the "bearer of bad news" could very well be ending it.

Bottom line, imo, stay out of it.