Surprisingly, few if any (dis)credited organized religion for giving them a head start on bdsm. I wonder, can I possibly be the only one? Visions of martydom/black&white habits/etc. started at least the sm part years ago.

The "only one"? Naaawww...

Of all of the responses to this thread, issyri's seemed the most revealing. Maybe a bit confused about differences between "slaves and subs", his post nonetheless speaks volumes. Mostly issyri relates his bond with his wife; mutual or her feelings, not simply his. As it should be. Either that, or the post mentioned is a clever ruse to appeal to garner responses from soft-hearted females. One hopes that this is not the case.