confused girl cant get it right....

[Lisais mine]

What I dont understand, is why we fail to understand that this is still a relationship. you are no putting yourself on the block for all bidders, but, i belive, looking for a relationship. you do not have to do anything with anyone you dont want to do .

having said that, if you tell a dom that you want to be dominated by him, what is he to do? He is going ot act Domly from that point, in order to turn you on, to attract YOU. If you havent represented your limits effectivly, then he may seem to be a bad dom when in fact he is trying to be in scene for you.

not saying that is what happend, just that i agree that a checklist is a good plan.

this happened to me once. i was playing a game with some friends, and the boy had told me he was into humiliation. i told him that for the rest of the evening he was to tell everyone that he had a tiny cock. well, this offended, even though to me it was innocous. it is all perspective, and if i had known at the time he was not into VERBAL humiliation, it would have never happened.