Aww, that was sweet, Lisais mine.

And you know what they say- when you're looking for Mr. Right, you've got to be yourself. That doesn't change just because you add BDSM into the mix. What would you say if he said "You don't dress flashy enough?" Run out and buy a new wardrobe? Hell no; you'd say he obviously can't appreciate who you are and not think twice about him. Same thing.