I agree with sdgirl 100% on this one. However, I am a male slave to my wife and I wear a very plan leather collar in public. I have never had anyone ask me how long I have been "owned" but some have made the comment of "nice collar" or something of the sort. I think in my case anyone who would notice my public collar or mention it would have to be in the know. I like it when someone comments on my collar and it really makes one think about them as well. I always just say thanks and move along when someone comments. The way I look at it is there are doing the very same thing at home or wish they were!