Safe words & limits can evolve and their definitions often change as a M/s or D/s relationships develop with trust.

All our relationships are utterly unique regardless of our 'labels' and although the fundenmental basics of safe words & limits are the same they can mean different things to us.

Personally I don't set my limits, he does. The same ethos with regards to a safe word.

As the membership of the library is forever changing and renewing; I think as long as we communicate the importance of limts & safe words to new members we are being responsible. Like wise if anybody is curious about my circumstances I'm always happy to explain.