Aloha

The bdsm library is a wonderful place for those who are confused. We are a very friendly community and love to try and answer questions. I would not presume to be able to answer yours, however; I would maybe give two points that immediately occur to me. I am sure the wonderful subs here will correct me if I am misguided.

First, perhaps joining in the chat room when it working again would be a help and you talk to some experienced and kind people (beware there are always a few of us nuts around) but the likes of Angelic Zest, Densurii, Minxy, Moco ohhh and so many more that will hit me I didn't mention them (sorry ladies) will offer all sorts of advice and help.

Second, I would advice taking time to find a Master Julie. Sometime it takes time to find people that will push the right buttons for you. I would take time to talk with many before I started to look. Perhaps number one will be the most wonderful but, invariably not it seems. Best to be cautious I think. Sometimes just playing in one of the chat rooms can give an insight into what may be appealing to you. Certainly this is a pretty safe way to experiment.

Should you wish a male perspective at any time please feel free to approach me and I will be happy to give my lowly opinions. (I'm sure some of the girls will tell you how wicked I am if you ask them)

Finally, welcome to us and have fun.

Regards Dragon