I've never understood asking what's "normal" from a bunch of self-confessed deviants. **giggles** what if everyone says "yes, that's absolutely normal" how would that help you feel any different? who cares what everyone else is doing?? all that matters is that you feel like you are getting what you want from the relationship, and that whoever is in the relationship with you is also getting what they want. Being told that what you're getting is normal isnt going help you feel better about getting "it" if "it" isn't what you want. Conversely, being told that it isn't normal probably wouldn't help much either. Then what? You go running to the person saying, "i'm right to feel this way, other people feel this way too!!" If you are the only person that feels a way about something or just one of a jillion, it doenst change the way you feel, or change the situation you are in. If you like feeling the way you feel let your husband know. If you dont like the way you are feeling let your husband know. honest communication is always my advice.