Hi kittysub,

Excuse me for asking but didn’t you say you are married to this man before he became your Master for 10 years? If so don’t you think (and one would hope he does) he knows enough about you to know how far and how fast he can go with you? He is your Master, so you trust him and his judgment or he would not be your Master, right?!
So relax and enjoy the ride, there is no right or wrong only bad communication, if you have questions or feel insecure talk to him!

On a side note, I find it always strange when slaves are told that they are the ones in charge…. Maybe we are doing something wrong but I am defiantly not in charge nor would I want to be!
This is a relationship, we both can end it but until one of us does he is in charge!
He is the Master, I am his slave, pretty simple concept and self explanatory.