Quote Originally Posted by thir View Post
I just wondered if this might help:

http://www.revisef65.org/psychopathology.html

It is a short overview over various research which all show that BDSM people are not different from other people.


I read most of those studies, and of course we arent any different from other people (well apart from arguably being more fulfilled sexually) . But that is not what The I's post was about anyway(!), it was about the fact that sometimes some people hide abuse in the guise of BDSM.

Percentage wise abuse and violence are no more common in BDSM community than they are in vanilla one, but we tend to forget about the % that is abuse and have a tendency to deny abuse exists at all due to (un)rational fear someone else will label what we personally are doing as abuse or unsane as well.

I think the closest definition for sane here would be someone who is able to anticipate and appraise the effect of their own's actions in order to discern which fantasies are best left fantasies.