Thank you Denuseri,

He did talk about her, explained his role in her life, and said that they parted as per their agreement once her goals were reached after 2 or 3 years. That one question about contacting her is one of the tough questions I am so hesitant to ask, but now that you have brought it up, I put myself in her place: If a former Dom were to contact me and ask me if I would provide a reference or talk to a new potential sub about him, I would feel comfortable making that decision for myself, and it would not feel as though he exposed my information without gaining my full permission. I will ask him when we meet.

I do agree that the questionnaire seems so unnatural, but it has been so helpful to me to just understand for myself what needs to be discussed. Even if I never show this piece of paper to another potential Dom, I will be certain to find the answers to these questions via discussion.

Oh, and yes, no matter how much I believe and trust this person at the outset, I will most definitely will arrange for a regular check-in until trust is established.

Thank you again!