A third party saftey call, doesnt have to know what your doing, as far as they are conserned you could be simpley sitting holding hands the whole time or maby you are having vanila sex , eaither way it doesnt matter...what does is that they know where you are and who your with and when your expected to call and or be at what time etc.

If your making up reasons or attempting to justify coming out about your kink as a way to try and force yourself to tell your famiely members about what you do in the bedroom you have other issues at work. This kind of "coming out compulsion" is a normal enough phenomenon, but not nessesary to make the saftey call system work.