Truthfully, I think it would be wrong to force her to submit to you- if she truly doesn't enjoy it.
It can be hard enough to do something which you might feel is shameful (but gives you great pleasure), without someone messing with your head by FORCING you to do it.
And in some ways, I don't think force should really be a pre-meditated thing in BDSM play, unless it is fantasy, or has been agreed on in advance..

Why not introduce her to BDSM play slowly?