Maybe, Silke, it's because it sounds so cold? Something like "pre-nuptial agreement"?
*ponders* yes, I think you're right. BDSM (contrary to my preconceptions before I started dipping my toes in it by the way) has been all about a journey into deep emotions for me, and the term 'contract' might just sound too cold. It might also explain why I see the sense of it on the rational side but have a weird feeling about it.

Yeah, I"m big on ritual. Some folk find it artificial.
I don't find it artificial at all...rituals can be so much if both people are into them - comforting, an anchor to get into a certain mood, a reminder...

Good luck in finding the essence of your relationship...I'd be interested to hear what those few sentences will be when you find them. *smiles*