Were not looking for 24/7. We've been married for 16 years. We are seperated right now. Partly because she's not happy in the bedroom. I have a small cock and it doesnt work right. We have toys that help but she's been reading romance novels and wants to be dominated. I spank her and other things involving pain and she loves it. When I say halfassed I mean I want to learn to dominate her the way she needs to be dominated not how everyone else wants me to. She means the world to me and I don't want to lose her so I'm trying to learn what I can here. I just don't know what questions to ask or who to ask them to.