Ok, first post and I will just jump in here.


How did you find out about the BDSM lifestyle?
I didn't realize it was a lifestyle until 4 years ago. I thought people just payed for that. Don't laugh! I had a job for a short time as a Dominitrix when I was 21. It was a short time. I had read the Story of O and the Gor books prior to that. I had put myself in compromising situations.
I learned that it was in fact a lifestyle on the internet. Erotica. Websites. I went to a chat room......that sucked. It was confusing and tiresome. I met some guy on line...that sucked. I tried to initiate it with a partner....that sucked. Yet, here I am back around reading the erotica.

What was its appeal to you?
I don't know. I over analyze entirely too much. Secondly, I am still thinking about it- not doing it and the reality of it may be completely different from what is in my head. I prefer to leave it at that.

What misconceptions did you have of BDSM before you began that have been changed now?
Besides the fact that its not just a job?

Do you consider yourself a "lifestyler" or just an occasional player?
Neither. I am an every so often obsessed woman that reads the erotica.

What do you hope to learn/teach/pass on to others about BDSM?
How to reconcile what feels like a split personality.