Like said above... a month is not that long. I stumbled across my Master. A great friend of mine that turned out to be more. I have posted else where that prior to any play between Him and I, there was 3 to 4 months of communication. Whether it be purely a fetish or an on demand lifestyle, there has to be a trust and respect present. After all.... you wouldn't just let anyone tie you up and have their way with you, right? Safe, sane, consensual.

Best of luck in your search