This may sound lame, but use Google, this site... post a thread with every question you may have. When I started out, I was so clueless. I felt stupid and like I would never figure it out. I did a lot of research on BDSM lifestyles. There really are so many ways to go about it. Since I'm a sub, I also had guidance from my Master and that helped tons. Being a member of this site has helped volumes. There are a lot of great people on this site that are always willing to help out. Denuseri, Snark, and Ozme have thrown me massive amounts of advice! I love you guys! Lol

Also, talk to your wife about it a lot. Communication is key. I'm sure she can tell you what she does and doesn't like. And that will give you a foundation to work off of. As I was told, practice makes perfect but nobody is perfect so don't worry about it too much! (ar1) It will take many sessions to mold your D/s relationship into what both of you really enjoy.

I'm sorry I can't give you advice from a Dominant's view, but I hope what I have to offer helps at least a little Happy playing to the both of you!