what have you had him try? while he is trying these "things", does he know what you are expecting? maybe this lifestyle is just not his cup of tea...it's my opinion that all you can really do is try to introduce him to what pleases you. he is either going to enjoy or he isn't...and it may be that he isn't.

i do wish you luck though, i sincerely hope that it works out for you.

Whisperz