Quote Originally Posted by denuseri View Post
You may wish to provide a good bit more detail as to the specifics here...for instance...is this an online arrangment..or in real life...do you live together...are you only getting togethr once a month or every couple days..etc?

Have the two of you sat down together and went over what her and your expectations are for the relationship?

Have you discussed hard limits?
Adding to that, a checklist may be a good idea. Both of you should fill one out and go over your results together.