in so meny ways I agree with all of your comments and advice. Its really strange because for the first year and a half that we lived together we shared our bed room with our(my biological) kids. it put a HUGE damper on any kind of physical relationship. We have spoken about our sexual relationship and he says that he is still getting used to having privacy again and that working oposite hours from the rest of the family he often just isn't interested. To a point I find that very reasonable. He clames that he deals with other commitments before helping around the house and spending family time because he "KNOWS" that we can have time later ect. Its not that we dont suit well as Master and Pet but that he often struggles to see my side and our priorities are often different. we choose to be together not because its easy but because we love each other and I just havent found a way to make him realize how importent things like finishing our BDSM contract or doing the dishes when you say your going to do them. He finds them trivial. ugh its just frustrating and i cant seem to get it across to him why its important to me.