I'd have to say I agree with those that have advocated a calm, private discussion about what you both see and feel in relationship to the contract. From personal experience, I know I'm in a much nicer place but the discussions and development of the rules and roles to get there was at times painful and very stressful for all concerned.

All I can say is please don't rush at this sort of thing and maybe pick a 'neutral venue' to have the discussions where you can really focus on each other.