What does BDSM/D/s/S/M?

[lucy]

I am asking this question because I am confused about it.

I am, too, and have given up to get it straightened out. They are just definitions and there are probably as many definitions as there are kinksters.

I heard it can mean anything the people involved wants it to mean.Is there a certain way you have to be/act/dress to be any of them?

I'd say that if you have to act, you probably are on the wrong path. Apart from that: Nope, there's only one right way and that is your way. Don't let anyone tell you that you're not a true slave/sub/Dom/whatever if you don't do this or don't like that.

I am still new at all this and so is my husband.I am submissive (well I guess that's what I am).It seems over-whelming to me to try to figure it all out I read the definitions for BDSM D/s S&M, TPE, slave,service-oriented person,and a few others but still am not sure where I "fit in".Anyone with any info would be appreciated.Thanks

You don't have to figure it all out. Well, maybe you do, but you certainly don't need to hurry. Take it easy, take it slow and most important: Be safe and have fun!