There is NO substitution for r/l!

[Austerus]

Fetlife is how you hook up people. It is how you find the parties. Forget the friends and forget the requests if it bothers you. I am trying to hook you people up with r/l. The EVENTS section for your city is where you want to look.

It's _a_ way that you can look up people. I'm guessing that many people here are already connected with r/l scenes to the extent that they want to be. I used to be a lot more active locally, but I'm not really into public use or sharing, and there is a significant portion of people "in the scene" who are kind of gross.

For many many years I was on this site and I thought it began and ended here. I thought that people who got to get out there and have real life were rare and special. Now I realize that ANYONE CAN HAVE R/L!!! I am so dissapointed that in all the years I was on this site that no one ever said, yes you too can have this and here is how. Frankly I got back on here just to tell people how to do it. It is not just for some of us. So basically that is my message.

I'm sorry you didn't know in all those years about munches or local events I can imagine how much of a wonderful revelation that must have been. It's awesome when people find things that make them happy

Also, if you think it is anything like collarme then you are wrong. There are no events for collarme just like here there are no events. This site is just for meeting like minds. It is pretend land. Those of us who are living BDSM know that you have to know where the munches are being held so that you can get the addresses to the dungeons. Sometimes you even need to be sponsored like with EROS. That is a damn good group btw. But there are other groups like ClubFEM and HEAT and if you are in Houston like me then you can go also to KAF and SAF and Lyon's Den and even HPEP! People there are so many groups out there you would be surprised and all of the groups I mentioned are in Houston alone. There are even more than that! So just imagine what there is in your neck of the woods.

My neck of the woods is San Francisco and the Bay Area. Sadly I'm pretty sure San Francisco doesn't have any kind of BDSM scene, and so I will be stuck in pretend land forever.

I hope that someone reading this will find a real experience. That is the only wish I have. I just wanted to tell you that it does not end here and that Fetlife is a way to find the groups and the events where you live. That's all.

Does Fetlife have a membership cost?