Originally posted by MrJerseyGuy
On the other hand, I am sure there are plenty of sexual submissives who suffer esteem issues, just as a percentage of any sub group of our population does. At the same time, I think there is an equal percentage of sexual submissives who are just the opposite.
Now let us follow that thought to its logical conclusion: There must also be out there some dom/mes suffering from low self-esteem.

The question that begs to be asked again is. Are they, or did they become dominant because of it?

An even deeper doubt: Should any sub submit to a dom/me that is lacking inner confidence despite outward signs (whatever these may be) of dominance? How can we tell?

Are we to conclude that the only power we really could/should wield is our own self-esteem/determination?

Wow! this thread is taking us to places I did not intend when I asked the original question