My sae word is Kashmir. A referrence to the 8 minutes and 32 seconds of musical fusion by Led Zeppelin. The song speaks of trying new things, fnding yourself, and listening to others. When we were in the begginning of our relationship,I had used the word a few times. Once we found familiararity, the word never gets used. My Dom has learned my body language. He is completely in tune with what I am putting off. I feel a safe word is a good idea but I don't think it should be a set in stone savior. A Dom needs to know when enough is enough in the instance where a slave cannot get the word out. Whether it be because you're overwhelmed, unconscious, or anythig else you can think of. A point was made in another thread that if a sub is gagged, how the hell are they going to get the safe word out? I feel this is an excellent point. Learning your partners body language and knowing hwen to stop is way safer than constantly relying on a safe word. Just my opinion. Not trying to offend. A safe word should be the back up plan... not the main source you rely on.