Me and my Master have been going through bad times with the jealousy issue for about a year. We never gave up on trying to find better ways to deal with my jealousy. It would work for awhile but then it eventually come back into our relationship with a powerful punch and stronger than ever. I was losing who i was and Master didnt feel like a Master and i didnt feel like a slave. We were beginning to think our Master/slave lifestyle was over because i couldnt control the monster that came out to haunt us. Our love for each other is extremely strong and we have lots of good qualities in our relationship, honesty, communication ,devotion, dedication and the will and drive to get through the toughest times. This has been one of our tough times. My sickness is gone. (jealousy) We made a breakthrough. I learned that jealousy for me is insecurties about myself and irrational thoughts that i started to believe. Nothing Master could say would help me overcome my fears and my way of thinking. I couldnt see what was really happening. All i thought was that he was going to find someone better than me and the more i became jealous and showed myself badly, the more i knew that was true. I was making my irrational thoughts come true. This became tourture for me. I was tourturing myself. COMMUNICATION! We never stoped that. Master talks things out with me. A couple of days ago we had a long talk about what we want from each other and who we are to each other and to our selfs. This talk worked and i realized that my jealousy made me blind on who my Master is and my ways of my thinking were WRONG! As my Master told me who he is and what he wants from his life the irrational jealousy was fading away, i understood him completely and wanted the same things he wanted. People who are jealous are insecure and they need to trust the other person. That was my problem. I was afraid to trust in fear losing him. I didnt want to take a chance, i held on to all those bad feelings and started to believe and trust in them instead of my Master. I was at my breaking point and i needed my jealousy behavior to end. I listened and really understood what he was saying to me. I know my Master and i have always known he is a good man, fair man, and loves me as much as i love him. He has never hurt me and has stuck by me through this when i was pushing him away with out even knowing it. He loves me, he wants the best for me and he is not trying to replace me. He is being himself and always has been doing that. It wasnt him that changed it was me and my fears that i couldnt escape. I will always be jealous just because i love him so deeply and i know that he deserves the best of the best and no one knows him as much as me. Jealousy and love are sisters. Jealousy is ok with me when it comes out in a good way and not in the destructive way. I am not very good with my words. What im trying to say is im over this "BAD JEALOUSY" I listened and opened my eyes to what was really going on in our life. My insecurities are gone and my all my trust is in my Master. Thank you for all of the advice that everyone left for us. It helped. Jealousy is a hard thing to deal with and i guess its different for each person and if there relationship is strong enough they will get through in there own way. Never give up on the things that are important.