Thir, I don't think that that is the case with him, he found the whole thing really disgusting, and besides I have absolutely no interest in having a sub myself. a submissive in a vanilla way is a personality that detests decisions and hopes they don't ever have to, always turns questions back around hoping for the other person to react and take the decision. I think of him as a person who is just floating by, waiting for the right wind to blow him away into the sky because his consciousness is already there.

It may be a simple I don't think I can handle it, being a Dom, but I think there is a deeper issue that prevents me from wanting to take control. I just flourish and do better when using initiative when I know my parameters that a Dom would provide for me. I am really not good at testing the waters with what I capable of in a dominate way. I also think that I do not find it attractive to see a man under a woman, it seems to defy the nature of a mans role. I can have thoughts of dominating a woman, but would never think of having a male sub. I feel the way a Gorean would feel, where even if a man and a woman are free, the woman still respects and considers the mans needs first. I know it is an archaic belief, but seems to stand the trials of time and history itself. while I don;t agree it is a large factor in today's society, it is still a factor, while we got close, a Woman has yet to become president. There are some tasks a man is good for and some a woman are for. Anyways enough ranting.