Quote Originally Posted by ksst View Post
I hadn't used my safeword before, although we agreed to have one because it seemed like a good idea, everyone said it was a good idea. Then last night I actually did need it but I couldn't say it, I couldn't even think of it.
I haven't seen this, but I have heard of it, and I did get into trouble once with a sub who got so deep into role-playing a kidnap victim that she forgot she had a safeword.
I was too far out/ down/under, where ever it was, and all I could mumble was "help, help, help" and he realized I was serious and quickly released me.
Another good reason to play with people you know! The sub mentioned above was one I'd only played with once before, if I'd known her reactions better I wouldn't have missed it.

My late wife didn't have an official safeword - we started with one, being responsible players, but it was a big moment in our relationship when I took it away - but if she called me by my name instead of "Master," I knew it was an emergency.