Quote Originally Posted by 98tiller View Post
I have gone to couple of munches locally and tried to do the club thing, unfortunately the people seemed very cliquish and unless you "lived" the lifestyle they didn't have time for you. I am not going to "live" my fantasy life, then it is not an escape but rather a replacement for the stresses I already have. I use my bdsm fantasies (ohhhh the evil word) to escape the stress of my day to day life. I truly feel this is what most people feel and at times some of the people you meet in this lifestyle give off the vibe that if you aren't willing to move across country, sign a contract and let me shit in your mouth every mourning then your not really a sub (I am aware that is a completely different conversation)
That's about how I feel. The bdsm is a fantasy life. In real life I am not submissive and have professional job. I guess I created my persona to underline that fantasy element. It also makes it a lot easier for me to be kinky when it's obvious that I'm playing a role. Like an actor, I guess. Not that my profile is untrue. It is pretty true to my kinks and age and gender. But I ain't a fictional cartoon character from a non-existent RI town! But Lois's sassy sexuality is how I'd like to be in real life and there's plenty of kinky piccies of her on the web to attract the occasional male doms I really just want to submit to other's fantasies while making sure they know the hot buttons of what really turns me on, so we both get a thrill from it. It makes a big change from being in the driving seat in real life. That's how I feel.