Quote Originally Posted by Honesty View Post
I don't think there is any simple solution or perfect answer and therapy does only go so far
True. Eventually, you will have to make yourself vulnerable to another in order to keep moving forward. If I understand what you're saying, you can make yourself physically vulnerable far easier than to make yourself emotionally vulnerable, and I think that makes perfect sense. I wish I had the most brilliant words of advice and guidance for you but I think allowing yourself to open up to platonic friendships first (within the kinky community) will help. Maybe that's the solution...try spending time REALLY getting to know a few different people in a non-sexual, non-physical way. Talk about bdsm, kinks, vanilla things. Learn about who they are...and allow them to learn about you. Trust grows slowly and sometimes you hit the right note right out of the box.

doe makes an excellent point a few posts up, too...think very carefully before you accept offers to help "fix" you.