diphyodont there are a lot of people who feel the way you do and enjoy finding a place to explore the darker side of themselves in a safe environment. Do be careful, of course, getting to know someone will reduce the risk of meeting someone who is.. "not what you're looking for" or dangerous/abusive. I did not find your scenarios to be abusive. Exploring your own desires with another party is normal. Being careful, where ever your desires take you in this world, is just very important.

Brkndrgn- I love -all- of your advice!