Love? Hate? What's the difference?

[thir]

Also remember that once you actually start to do some of the things your fantasizing about you will most likely find they are not nearly so fantastic as your imagination has been making them out to be.

Yes, that is apparently true for a number of us: especially 'bdsm starvation' can make the fantasies bloom into something that the real thing would crush. There is a difference between fantasy material, and feeling it. For me, anyway ;-)

So it may be that when you try something out, you find that less will do it. But of course it is also possible that you are right on target with your ideas, in which case please listen to the good advice about safety, and consider finding someone who can pretend hate, but who does not really hate you. Alternatively, have a spotter.

Best of luck.