Always get back ground info and meet online first. when and if you meet public you drive to a spot 5 blocks frome the PUBLOC PLACE YOU YOU HAVE PREARRANGED TO MEET. HAVE DINNER, GET TO KNOW HIM AND TAKE A CAB TO YOUR CAR ALONE AND MAKE SURE YOU ARE NOT FOLLOWED. NEVER GIVE OUT INFO LIKE TELEPHONE, ADDRESS, REAL MAME ETC. YOU SHOULD BE ABLE TO GET A BASIC FEELING FOR THE GUY ON THE DATE. Date a few more time and negotiate exactly what the boundaries are in the relationship. you should both get criminal checks done by the police, and each should have proper if including You go to a photo shop and have a picture takend of you and he does the same. You include a trusted name for contact and he does tha same. This way the police have a picture and hopefully a fingerprint to work with. I know this all sounds cloak and dagger, but today's world has changed radically. YOU need to ensure you safety in the beginning