Quote Originally Posted by this.is.me View Post
I recently posted on another vanilla relationship forum about a particular issue I was having with my boyfriend (my master). It was immediately pointed out to me that I am being extremely codependent on him. He still wants me to have my own life, he isn't taking that away from me, it is my doing. I was just wondering if anyone else has encountered this issue and if it is normal considering the dynamic of the relationship?
Do you yourself think you are co-dependant? A person on a list cannot know more about your life than you do.

The concept of co-dependancy came up in connection with alcoholic relationships, but has been watered down to mean just about anything and nothing. The description 'if you value the relationship more than you value yourself' is thought provoking, or if you your are in a relationship where you feel a compulsion to try to make it work, and your partner does not.

But if you want your own life, and functions like a normal adult, then I would forget about what they say on the vanilla site. The thing is, BDSM relationships tend to be intense and deep, often more so than vanilla, and that can sound frightening to other people. That does not mean that you are codependant.