Quote Originally Posted by BlasphemousRumours View Post
I asked for help in private because I have trouble making myself post things back out in the open because I'm very shy and awkward. I worry too much about what people will think when they hear or read what I have to say. We've discussed that I'm turned on by the thought of it and would really like to try it out. He doesn't seem to get what it actually means or what to do. He seems to wave the idea off because he thinks a little rough handling is all I need or want but it isn't. Sure hair pulling, biting, smacks, and such are great but that's not enough for me. I like pain along with pleasure. It's very frustrating to me to continually be denied this. I love sex and I'm very sexual but I always seem to feel like there should be something more. It's not enough for me to go at it normally or even to have what he considers rough sex.
If you are too shy to spell out what you need - and I know it can be hard - then try going through the stories on this site till you find some that sound like the scene you want, then post the links to him. If you send him enough the penny should drop!

But you should start to prepare for the possibility that it's not that he doesn't get it: he just isn't able to do what you want. Has he said why he won't do more than "rough sex"? Most guys would think Xmas had come early if their girlfriend asked to be tied up and spanked hard, but for some the rule that you don't hit women is too deep rooted.

It's a very sad fact, which we see regularly on this forum, that people can be happily in love but sexually incompatible. I hope I'm wrong, but you need to be ready for it.