Its a pretty big misconception that it must be the dominant doing all this building and teaching fyi.

Especially with an on line /long distance thing where one or both partners may or may not even be remotely kinky in real life but like totally vanilla otherwise etc.

Additionally its also a misconception that a "relationship" of any kind must be considered outside of the "scene"...(which btw also applies in some real life circumstances as well such as: in a public dungeon during a casual yet monitored -by staff-session with a complete stranger).