vicmal96,

I think something also needs to be said for the obligation of a sub to be honest and candid with a Dom. Especially OL, a Dom has no non-verbal cues to go by in order to detect whether the sub is (or might be) misrepresenting 1] their true desires, 2] their true experience level, 3] their true current status.

I first joined the OL community last week. My first night in chat I was approached by subs seeking OL Role Play.

The very first thing I told them was that I had never done anything with OL roleplay before, and I explained to them both how risky it could be. They seemed to think there would be no harm, reassuring Me of their experience, and urging Me to just go ahead and try. I should have refused. My responsibility, I acted in ignorance, I was wrong to have done so. I have apologized.

I am a quick study, however. It taught Me that OL is not very different from RL in terms of safety concerns. I did not know that a strong mental Dom could carry a sub so deep in one brief OL roleplay session, if someone had told Me I might have found it very difficult to believe. I had no idea the sub would become attached so quickly from Online roleplay.

After the scene ended, the sub became honest and confessed having misrepresented all sorts of details to Me. I immediately went into damage mitigation mode, exactly as I would do in R/L if a sub misrepresented and harm resulted. I have done (will continue to do) the best I can to aid recovery.

I have no idea whether I am the Dom to whom you referred, but I might as well have been. Hopefully, subs and Doms can benefit from My mistake and the mistakes of the sub.

For your consideration,
CC