Quote Originally Posted by kurious-kitten{KM} View Post
I now know I have other reasons to live: I have family, novels in progress, and a plan to make an impact in foster childrens' lives. Those are all future things that I'm working towards, which is helping me become less dependent on him, but on bad days I still do depend on him, go through the motions to please him.
And that's what proves your relationship is a healthy one, regardless of how it looks to vanilla onlookers: that he's encouraging you to grow outside your submissive role, not pushing you into more dependence on him.